Nice guys finish last. Thats the adage, the folklore of the day. See what happens is girls say they want a nice guy, but all they date are assholes. Why, you ask? Beacuse assholes have confidence and the balls to ask girls out. Nice guys stand at a distance, passively trying to get girls to notice them. The girls seem easily taken by the bravado of assholes and for the most part they are. There is a grim satisfaction nice guys take from the current divorce rate too. As a nice guy myself I have tried to teach myself to act like an asshole but it’s a false skin and is easily penetrated. Lies make poor armor. It’s strange to me that girls are so confused by a man who doesn’t try to fuck them on a first date. It’s like the modern generation is programmed to be whores and pimps. I was trained different, by my mother mostly but also by the women I respected in my life. I come from a family of feisty women who when pushed are absolutely savage. So as a youth I learned a healthy respect for women. It’s odd now to be in a culture where women do not expect much less demand that level of respect. Hence the nice guy who knows how to treat a woman is left out in the cold. After all girls have been programmed to think that if a guy doesn’t try to score on the first night he must not be into them. It’s a sad state of affairs (literally). So here I sit twice tonight girls I know have asked for a hero or to be saved. Not knowing that I would love nothing more than to save them but also knowing they have no idea what exactly they are asking for. Most women have no idea how to be feminine and most men have absolutely no control of their libido. We have reached the point prophesied in Trainspotting. There are no men or women anymore there are just wankers. Lust crazed individuals who have absolutely no understanding of love or intimacy. Hence those of us who are tragically “old school” are rejected as being pussies or just plain weird. I am a hapless romantic, and I refuse to compromise this in misguided attempts at getting laid. Sex means nothing without love and is not worth the trouble. Love is really the only thing I’m after and it has little to do with sex. So here I am finishing last but when I do finish it will be worth so much more.
08
Sep
11
I bet I’ll finish laster than you!
You gotta remember though that there are just as many asshole girls as guys. If you want to understand women, just take a guy, switch it so he wants to be pretty instead of strong, and give him/her the freedom to express all of his emotions outrageously, including playing wounded to get sympathy… and that’s a girl. Girls the same inside as guys really, we just play the game a little different. It’s not like girls are inherently more innocent or nicer or more moral or something, please don’t make that huge mistake. Girls in general have exactly the same morality level as guys, they just show it differently. In some ways the game is easier on women, in some ways its harder; women can whimper and play the pity card, or the helpless cute don’t hurt me card, and most do so all the time (remember, women can be devious, the bad ones like to cry crocodile tears and pull the limping wolf act a lot), but they can’t move around as freely in the world. Men are not stalked down the street and are allowed to be more independent, but they can’t show weakness or they’ll be clobbered. Anyhow, differences aside, I just wanted to point out that dating is the same for a guy and for a girl. The girls who are willing to look you in the eye, smile, and sit down to talk to a stranger are NOT the nice girls, generally. The nice girls avert their gaze, go about their business, and try to stay out contact with strangers as much as possible. Nice girls want to get to know someone at a safe, polite distance for a few weeks before making a move toward a relationship. Nice girls prefer to meet guys at safe places, like work or schools, where they have an actual excuse to be talking to them — like work or learning stuff — instead of just lookin for some pants to crawl down on the first date. A girl who does that is not interested in who she screws, she’s only interested in a man-sized dildo that she can dispose of once she grows bored of it. So if you’re meeting very confident seeming women who are willing to talk romance the moment they meet a stranger, and who are looking for sex immediately, those are NOT the ones you want to be talking to. Those are asshole girls. You’re a nice guy, so stick to nice girls; it takes a little bit of creativity and hunting to actually track down the nice ones since they hide in order to keep themselves safe in a creepy world, but you’re smart, you can figure it out, and a nice girl really appreciates a nice guy going out of his way to meet her. It proves he has resourcefulness and courage. And trust me, the nice girls are not interested in the flashy, loudmouthed, pushy, ‘confident,’ bossy asshole guys but are purposefully looking out for quiet, in the background, maybe even not so attractive or flashy guys that they can make a socially acceptable and polite excuse to talk to. (And for all you ugly guys out there, no, girls are not as interested in how attractive guys are as guys are interested in how pretty a girl is. Girls know most nice guys are the plain ones… “a face only a mother could love” applies to nice girls, they don’t mind terribly much. For them, courage, decency, faithfulness and moral character are more important than looks by about 100%.)
I do tend to think of women as morally better and am pretty much a sucker for crocodile tears, Thanks alot MOM and Dad for raising me in the 1950′s mentality that all mend are dogs and all women are precious flowers in need of protection! (sigh) If my last relationship did anything for me it made me leary of girls in genral and raised my standards by about 75%. I must admit I do feet that old biological clock ticking me incrimentally towards old age and uselessness, but that is even more reason to be damn sure before I take the relationship plunge again!
Thanks for the Insight Adah! As always your frank brutal analisys of things cuts away the whimsey and exposes hard truth, stark naked and shivering slightly at being exposed! I thank you!
J